Cosplaying religion

You know, something I’ve been reflecting on lately is how much posturing there is in religion and spirituality, particularly in the West.

I was pagan for years, and honestly, there is so much online cosplay within paganism and spirituality. And then I experienced Islam, and I found much of the same thing there. And you see it within Hinduism too. It’s predominantly Western white women taking these ancient religions and traditions and creating an online version of them that, quite often, bears very little resemblance to how those religions are actually lived.

As a simple example my ex-husband’s family are Brahmin Hindus that live in Nepal, and the difference between how Hinduism is practised there and how it is often presented and practised by Western converts is enormous. It’s the same with Islam. There is a huge difference between living a religion and creating an identity around looking like you live that religion.

And I think that’s one of the things I’ve come to love most about Orthodox Christianity.

There is no need for the cosplay.

There is no need for the performance.

There is no need to constantly show people what you believe, what you wear, what you eat, what you pray with, what your home looks like or what your spiritual practice looks like.

It’s stripped right back to the basics.

Prayer. Repentance. Worship. Scripture. The sacraments. And ultimately, God.

And I think that’s where you really find the connection — when you drop the ego.

Because so much of it is egoic, isn’t it? Look at me. Look what I’m wearing. Look what I practise. Look how spiritual I am. Look how devoted I am.

But who are we actually doing it for?

I think there’s a real peace that comes when you let go of the need to be seen by anybody except God.

When you stop performing your faith for the world and simply start living it for God.

And perhaps that’s where the real connection begins — when there’s no audience anymore.

Because eventually you have to stop asking, “Do I look like I’m living the faith?” and start asking, “Am I actually living it?”

There’s a huge difference between looking the part and living the part and that’s where the authentic connection and peace is.

The rhythm of prayer

The rhythm of prayer in Orthodoxy is simply learning to return to Christ throughout your day. It isn’t about praying constantly or perfectly. It’s about making prayer a natural part of life.

A simple rhythm might look like this:

  • Morning: Thank God for a new day and say your morning prayers.
  • During the day: Whisper a short prayer whenever you think of God, such as, “Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, have mercy on me.” Pray before meals, before difficult conversations, or when someone comes to mind.
  • Evening: Thank God for the day, ask forgiveness for your sins, pray for others, and end the day with evening prayers.

The goal isn’t to tick off prayers on a list. It’s to keep gently turning your heart back to Christ, again and again, until prayer becomes as natural as breathing. Over time, this steady rhythm brings peace and helps your relationship with Him grow.

What is faith ?

This isnt a question that can be answered simply and I dont intend to claim to be a scholar simply a sinner that follows Christ.

For me faith in God is not like solving a maths problem where you reach a point of absolute proof and there is nothing left to question. God is not simply an answer we arrive at through logic — He is Someone we come to know, trust, and love.

Faith is not just believing that God might exist; it is the assurance that He is there and that we can place our trust in Him.

Because faith is a relationship, it can exist alongside doubt. Having questions or moments of uncertainty does not mean we have no faith. In fact, doubt can sometimes be part of a living faith because it shows we are searching, growing, and engaging with God rather than simply accepting things without thought.

Faith is not about being comfortable and never questioning; it is about taking the courage to step forward, to seek, and to discover more of God.

In this way, faith is an ongoing conversation with our doubts — choosing to continue trusting while we keep growing.