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Productive Activities for Revert Sisters unable to fast in Ramadan

Dear sister,

If you’re unable to fast due to whatever reason, as that’s between you and Allah don’t feel discouraged. You are still earning rewards by obeying Allah’s command and quite often your medical team.

Here are some beneficial ways to stay spiritually connected during this time:

1. Say Alhamdulillah – Instead of feeling upset. Understand that everything is by the will of Allah and you are still being rewarded for following Allah’s guidance.

2. Start Everything with Bismillah – Begin all your actions in the name of Allah to bring blessings into your day.

3. Memorize the 99 Names of Allah – Reflect on their meanings to strengthen your connection with Him.

4. Recite Surah Ikhlas – Since it equals one-third of the Qur’an, reading it three times is like completing the entire Qur’an.

5. Engage in Dhikr – Keep your heart connected to Allah by frequently saying SubhanAllah, Alhamdulillah, Allahu Akbar, La ilaha illallah.

6. Seek Forgiveness – Say Astaghfirullah often to purify your heart and soul.

7. Learn and Memorize Short Duas – Focus on their meanings and incorporate them into your daily life.

8. Read Hadiths – Gain wisdom from the sayings of the Prophet (ﷺ) in a language you understand.

9. Listen to Qur’an Tafseer & Islamic Lectures – Deepen your understanding of Islam through beneficial talks.

10. Read the Qur’an’s Translation – Reflect on the words of Allah in your native language.

11. Study the Seerah – Learn about the life of Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) and draw inspiration from his character.

12. Read About the Women of Islam – Discover the lives of the Mothers of the Believers and female Companions for motivation and strength.

13. Share Islamic Knowledge – If you have online friends or sisters in faith, engage in discussions and share beneficial reminders.

14. Avoid Gossip & Negative Speech – Protect your heart by staying away from backbiting and idle talk.

15. Revive the Sunnah – Implement small Sunnah acts, like making du’a before sleeping and greeting others with Salam.

16. Improve Your Worship – Practice perfecting your wudu, salah, and supplications so you can return to/continue prayer with renewed sincerity.

17. Engage in Acts of Kindness – A kind word, a supportive message, or a sincere du’a for someone else is a form of charity.

18. Plan Your Ramadan Goals – Use this time to set spiritual goals for the remainder of Ramadan and beyond.

19. Make Niyyah (Intention) for Allah – Every good deed done sincerely for His sake will be rewarded.

20. Tag a Sister Who Can Benefit – The Prophet (ﷺ) said: “The one who guides to something good has a reward similar to the one doing it.” (Muslim)

Remember: In Ramadan, good deeds are multiplied 70 times! Even if you can’t fast, there are countless ways to earn immense rewards.

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When Ramadan Doesn’t Go as Planned: A Test of Trust and Surrender

In the lead-up to Ramadan, I was filled with so much anticipation. This year, I was finally going to fast. I couldn’t wait to experience the long, quiet hours of devotion, the stillness before dawn, and the sweet relief of Iftar at sunset. I stood outside my back door, searching the night sky, waiting for the crescent moon. And when I saw it, a soft silver arc against the darkness, tears welled in my eyes. It was a moment of relief, of hope—Ramadan had arrived.

The first few days were beautiful. I set up a small space in my kitchen, just for Suhoor and Iftar. I woke early, journaled in the morning, reflected, and immersed myself in the peace of it all. There was ease, joy, and an overwhelming sense of closeness to Allah.

And then, in the middle of it, Allah sent me a test.

A hospital visit. My consultants telling me I couldn’t fast. That it was harming my body. And just like that, the thing I had been longing for was taken away. It felt like such a loss, like something had been stolen from me.

At first, I struggled to make sense of it. Was I failing my Ramadan? Was I missing out on its blessings? Did Allah really want me to pass this test?

For many, fasting is difficult. The long hours, the hunger, the fatigue—it pushes you, but it also pulls you closer to Allah. But for those of us who cannot fast, for whatever reason—illness, pregnancy, breastfeeding, mental health—this is the real test. Not fasting can feel like you’re standing outside the gates of Ramadan, looking in, watching everyone else experience it while you’re left behind.

But this test, like all tests, is not a punishment—it’s an opportunity. When you can’t fast, you have to search harder for ways to draw close to Allah. You have to be intentional in your worship, in your dhikr, in your charity, in your prayer. You have to deepen your relationship with Him in other ways.

Not fasting isn’t a relief—it’s not an easier Ramadan. It’s a test that requires patience, faith, and trust. It’s easy to struggle through fasting, but it’s even easier to feel overwhelmed when you cannot. To feel weak. To question whether you’re doing enough. To wonder if you are still making the most of Ramadan.

And it’s okay to feel that way. It’s okay to feel overwhelmed, to feel physically and mentally weaker than usual, to have moments of doubt. It’s okay to sit with those emotions and be human with them. Because that’s exactly what Allah wants from us—to be human with Him.

He is Al-Qarīb, The One Who Is Near. He is with us through every trial, every frustration, every tear. He does not test us to break us, but to bring us closer.

“And when My servants ask you concerning Me, indeed I am near. I respond to the call of the supplicant when he calls upon Me…” (Quran 2:186)

Allah wants us to pass this test. He does not leave us alone with it. And when we begin to accept that—not just with our minds, but with our hearts—that’s when the peace comes.

It comes from knowing that Allah is with us, not just in our worship, but in our weakness. It comes from knowing that this, too, is part of our journey, part of our Qadr, part of the path He has chosen for us.

Maybe this test was never about fasting. Maybe it was about surrender. About trusting that Al-Wakīl, The Best Disposer of Affairs, sees what I cannot, knows what I do not, and that His plan is always greater than mine. Maybe it was about teaching me that Ramadan is not just about fasting—it’s about coming closer to Him, however that may look.

So if you are someone who cannot fast this Ramadan, know that you are not alone. Your test is real, and your struggle is seen. But also know this: you are still in Ramadan, and Allah is still near.

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Xmas RANT

What an odd time Xmas is for. REVERT in the uk. especially the only revert in your house.WORSE if you have children who you haven’t been forced to revert as many reverts do to their children, yep shakes my head .

It’s not only a time of your pages being flooded with xmas posts and twinkly lights but also muslim pages bashing anyone that dare to uphold family traditions connected to the time of year and their culture.

This is the thing I think that gets missed allot and thats that whilst yes many do celebrate Christmas for the religious reasons many of us celebrate XMAS with absolutely zero religious attachment to it what so ever.

For many of us this was always a time of year where all the family had a few days off we would get to see people we hadn’t for a year all come together and eat and share time with each other. there were no church services or prayers or nativity sets in the house nor were there any greetings other than the usual happy XMAS then it was never mentioned again all day, we didnt watch religious tv in fact we would usually watch die hard or the great escape a war based movie or Oliver Twist all xmas classics in my home growing up and then listen to your great uncle and grandparents bang on about ‘in my day in the war’ as they sip on they gin and tonic or port

Whilst some have then go on when disproved and argued oh its a pagan tradition I would argue having been a pagan for 35 years before I reverted that actually NO xmas day and Yule are not only two totally different things but also they fall on two totally different dates.

So its a weird one as we have our cultural ties and family traditions calling us on one hand and misunderstanding and attempts at Shaming us for them on the other in the form of public judgements and social media posts

one thing needs to be made clear, at no point as children growing up did many of us associate the time of year with god so why would be now as reverts ???

I think the need for understanding doesnt fall on the head of reverts this time of year and instead falls up on muslims to educate themselves as some of the posts are simply ignorant and narrow minded and having been on both sides of the coin…. embarrassing.