Romanticising and reality

In many Muslim communities, there is often an over-romanticized view of marriage. This can be largely due to the fact that many people, especially men, enter into marriage with little to no prior experience in relationships, as premarital relationships are not allowed in Islam. Consequently, they often step into marriage with unrealistic expectations, viewing it as a fairy tale rather than a partnership built on effort, responsibility, and mutual respect.

Marriage in Islam, while beautiful, is not without its challenges. It’s not enough to simply rely on romantic gestures or dua. In reality, marriage involves hard work—managing finances, handling responsibilities, supporting each other’s growth, and addressing the pressures of daily life. You cannot live solely on ideals; practical efforts like earning a living, maintaining respect, and nurturing dignity are what truly sustain a relationship.

Let’s face it, it’s beautiful to receive long romantic messages but in reality if you cannot walk your talk it’s just words you’ve cut copied and pasted to win someone’s heart with no ability to fulfill them.

When these idealized expectations collide with the realities of life—the need to work, provide, and manage household pressures—it can lead to disappointment and frustration. Many relationships struggle because partners fail to maintain a balanced understanding of what marriage truly requires. A successful marriage requires patience, mutual effort, and a clear understanding that love and commitment are built on more than just romantic notions—it’s about facing life together with resilience, respect, and shared responsibility.

In the end, true fulfillment in marriage comes when both partners acknowledge the realities of life and continue to work together, beyond the fleeting romantic moments, to build a stable and respectful relationship grounded in faith and responsibility.

May Allah bless us with balanced, compassionate, and understanding spouses, and grant us the strength to navigate the challenges of life with patience, love, and mutual respect.